MY baby died and I get written up!!!

[Steve Williams]

Originally Posted by MTAG

I still work for ERAC, though not in rental anymore, Im one of those "loser" who couldnt hack it, :)

Anyway, earlier this year my wife gave birth to a stillborne child, full term 9 months into her pregnancy. I have no other children and was soooo looking forward to this child, the new ight of my life. So a week before her due date the baby passed in the womb. We were devestated, and to this day, 4 months later, we still are! My reason for bitching is: after the death, I couldnt work, I am the man in the relationship, so like preg. leave, I guess they thought I wasnt deserving of time off. So I was out for 2 months, used all of my sick and vac time, as of now I have no days left this year until in Dec. Thats OK, thats my business. Anyway, while I was out, grieving, I called the VP of the Area, the highest rank aroun d and wasw talking with him about my absence and that I have no days left, in short, I just wanted to be sure I still had a job. I was in touch with my branch everyweek I was oput though. So the VP says to me, "Take you time, your family and your well bieng are whats important right now, your job will be here for you, we want to retain people like you" almost verbatim what he said. So 1 week later I go back to work, I was met with an MS01, or Erac Email, from the regional VP and HR head, they wanted to meet with me later this week. I figure that they want to see if Im OK, talk to me about it, my loss......NO WAY>.......they wrote me up and had me sign a commitment letter to the company, and I did.....and I still wortk here....I have been here almost 3 years and have a great track record with absenses. They friggin wrote me up for being out GREIVING. Anyway, I told them at the meeting that I was going to get married in Aug. this Aug. and Ill need a week off, they said to me "GREAT< thats positive time off, no problem" SO im totally confused---I can take off to get married with no sick or vaca days, but god forbid someone dies..

I hate it here, the first job offer I get, its SCRAM for me. The care about money and thats it, why do you think the colors are GREEN.

PISSED OFF TO HIGH HEAVEN

Sorry for your loss. I had a question though, in your post you mentioned your wife and then you said you were getting married in August? You lost me on that chain of events....

[Ballsac T. Baghar]

Originally Posted by MTAG

I still work for ERAC, though not in rental anymore, Im one of those "loser" who couldnt hack it, :)

Anyway, earlier this year my wife gave birth to a stillborne child, full term 9 months into her pregnancy. I have no other children and was soooo looking forward to this child, the new ight of my life. So a week before her due date the baby passed in the womb. We were devestated, and to this day, 4 months later, we still are! My reason for bitching is: after the death, I couldnt work, I am the man in the relationship, so like preg. leave, I guess they thought I wasnt deserving of time off. So I was out for 2 months, used all of my sick and vac time, as of now I have no days left this year until in Dec. Thats OK, thats my business. Anyway, while I was out, grieving, I called the VP of the Area, the highest rank aroun d and wasw talking with him about my absence and that I have no days left, in short, I just wanted to be sure I still had a job. I was in touch with my branch everyweek I was oput though. So the VP says to me, "Take you time, your family and your well bieng are whats important right now, your job will be here for you, we want to retain people like you" almost verbatim what he said. So 1 week later I go back to work, I was met with an MS01, or Erac Email, from the regional VP and HR head, they wanted to meet with me later this week. I figure that they want to see if Im OK, talk to me about it, my loss......NO WAY>.......they wrote me up and had me sign a commitment letter to the company, and I did.....and I still wortk here....I have been here almost 3 years and have a great track record with absenses. They friggin wrote me up for being out GREIVING. Anyway, I told them at the meeting that I was going to get married in Aug. this Aug. and Ill need a week off, they said to me "GREAT< thats positive time off, no problem" SO im totally confused---I can take off to get married with no sick or vaca days, but god forbid someone dies..

I hate it here, the first job offer I get, its SCRAM for me. The care about money and thats it, why do you think the colors are GREEN.

PISSED OFF TO HIGH HEAVEN

You need to get more exposure for your story. Can you contact any local media?

[slave no more]

Originally Posted by Ballsac T. Baghar

You need to get more exposure for your story. Can you contact any local media?

And say what? That he was given two months off and was allowed to keep his job? The way it was handled was pretty poor but 2 months off for any reason other than his own personal health is a little drastic. Now I cannot say how he felt BUT I know people whose child passed at 4 and 9 (car accident) and were back at work 3 weeks later....they still were devastated but realized they had to work and that they only have so much time off.

Check FMLA. Those are the rules to leave in these types of situations. If it's not a violation get over it. Sorry for your loss but you could also be one of the 5+% of Americans without a job as well.

[Benzo Lorenzo]

Originally Posted by slave no more

And say what? That he was given two months off and was allowed to keep his job? The way it was handled was pretty poor but 2 months off for any reason other than his own personal health is a little drastic. Now I cannot say how he felt BUT I know people whose child passed at 4 and 9 (car accident) and were back at work 3 weeks later....they still were devastated but realized they had to work and that they only have so much time off.

Check FMLA. Those are the rules to leave in these types of situations. If it's not a violation get over it. Sorry for your loss but you could also be one of the 5+% of Americans without a job as well.

You are a heartless S.O.B.

[Intern]

Im sure losing your first child is hard, but two months off and just being written up is very generous, most companies wouldn't let you take that kind of time off of work and call would have been made to excuse you from work perminately.

I have had relatives die over the years and there needs to be time to grieve for a couple of days, maybe a week, but not two months.

[badappl3]

Originally Posted by AA0154

This thread has been going on long enough.

Lose of a child is bad bit... How long did you want to grive?

Forever?!?!?!?

You got 2 months off!!!! And you still have a job... What are you bitching about???

No other company gives you that much timeoff and you want more.

wow...

AA0154

Agreed. Seems like they've been patient.
At some point you realize that even though you are grieving you are still able to function and part of that is you go back to work. You don't stop eating, and showering, and checking your mailbox because you're grieving. Your life goes on and eventually you go back to work too. But if I still worked at ERAC I'd milk my grief too. (Not trying to be flippant but I would)

Originally Posted by slave no more

And say what? That he was given two months off and was allowed to keep his job? The way it was handled was pretty poor but 2 months off for any reason other than his own personal health is a little drastic. Now I cannot say how he felt BUT I know people whose child passed at 4 and 9 (car accident) and were back at work 3 weeks later....they still were devastated but realized they had to work and that they only have so much time off.

Check FMLA. Those are the rules to leave in these types of situations. If it's not a violation get over it. Sorry for your loss but you could also be one of the 5+% of Americans without a job as well.

Fuck you, you insensitive twathole. What the hell would you do if it happened to you? Oh I forgot, to have a child you have to have sex first and who the fuck would open their legs to you and your sorry ass?

[BFDBFQ]

Originally Posted by badappl3

Agreed. Seems like they've been patient.
At some point you realize that even though you are grieving you are still able to function and part of that is you go back to work.

I agree. This asswipe is using that excuse "Oh poor pitiful me, my baby died" and playing it for all its worth.

If the mother took better care of herself while pregnant the baby would still be alive.

You are lucky to have a job. You should get down on your knees and kiss the feet of your boss instead of whining and complaining.

[Intern]

Originally Posted by Meltdown

Fuck you, you insensitive twathole. What the hell would you do if it happened to you? Oh I forgot, to have a child you have to have sex first and who the fuck would open their legs to you and your sorry ass?

You're missing the point of what's been said. Grieving over lossing a child is fine, having SOME time off is perfectly alright and is necessary. However 2 months is way too long.

I hate ERAC as much as anyone on this site, but ERAC was been more than generous to only write up this person. Most companies out there would have probably fired the guy. Most companies allow about one week if someone in your immediate family has died, anything beyond two weeks IMO is starting to be a little excessive.

[Intern]

Originally Posted by BFDBFQ

I agree. This asswipe is using that excuse "Oh poor pitiful me, my baby died" and playing it for all its worth.

If the mother took better care of herself while pregnant the baby would still be alive.

You are lucky to have a job. You should get down on your knees and kiss the feet of your boss instead of whining and complaining.

Now you are just a dick. Some people do conceive stillborn babies even if they did all the right things.