MY baby died and I get written up!!!

I still work for ERAC, though not in rental anymore, Im one of those "loser" who couldnt hack it, :)

Anyway, earlier this year my wife gave birth to a stillborne child, full term 9 months into her pregnancy. I have no other children and was soooo looking forward to this child, the new ight of my life. So a week before her due date the baby passed in the womb. We were devestated, and to this day, 4 months later, we still are! My reason for bitching is: after the death, I couldnt work, I am the man in the relationship, so like preg. leave, I guess they thought I wasnt deserving of time off. So I was out for 2 months, used all of my sick and vac time, as of now I have no days left this year until in Dec. Thats OK, thats my business. Anyway, while I was out, grieving, I called the VP of the Area, the highest rank aroun d and wasw talking with him about my absence and that I have no days left, in short, I just wanted to be sure I still had a job. I was in touch with my branch everyweek I was oput though. So the VP says to me, "Take you time, your family and your well bieng are whats important right now, your job will be here for you, we want to retain people like you" almost verbatim what he said. So 1 week later I go back to work, I was met with an MS01, or Erac Email, from the regional VP and HR head, they wanted to meet with me later this week. I figure that they want to see if Im OK, talk to me about it, my loss......NO WAY>.......they wrote me up and had me sign a commitment letter to the company, and I did.....and I still wortk here....I have been here almost 3 years and have a great track record with absenses. They friggin wrote me up for being out GREIVING. Anyway, I told them at the meeting that I was going to get married in Aug. this Aug. and Ill need a week off, they said to me "GREAT< thats positive time off, no problem" SO im totally confused---I can take off to get married with no sick or vaca days, but god forbid someone dies..

I hate it here, the first job offer I get, its SCRAM for me. The care about money and thats it, why do you think the colors are GREEN.

PISSED OFF TO HIGH HEAVEN

Sorry to hear about your loss first of all.

Perhaps there is some major disconnect between what they thought was happening with you being gone versus what you thought that they were cool with.

If they thought that you were overstepping some bounds etc, the least they could have done with you first was to have a conversation to see where the differences were.

Keep us posted....

No doubt Ill keep you posted, like when I get a new job....


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They knew why I was out, I called in every monday, to speak with my BM. I wasnt picking my nose laughing how i got one over on them, as I have no days left to be paid for, so all in all, its MY loss, and soon theirs, when I leave, not that I am the best ever, but I work my ass of as Im sure you all do/did.

Bastards. Them , I mean.

You said you're wife gave birth, but you are getting married this upcoming August??? I assume you were just really pissed when you wrote this, but I was a little confused. I'm sorry to hear what happened. Erac will not give you days for your wedding, trust me on that. That's probably the shittiest erac story I've heard so far. And some wonder why people keep flocking to this website...

Yes, we are living in sin, we have been together since 1995, living together since 1997, but never had a chance to get married, financial woes, break ups on and off, we were kids, ya know..... now we are settling down FINALLY this Aug, but I guess we were pretty much common law already :)

None-the-less, it happened to me, and I got no apologies......and to top this Frigged up story, :::you know how at ERAC they use that damn printer for everythin from "watch out for this cust" and "so and so sold another car" AND "Congrats to so and so for the birth of their baby"" well I still get phone call to this day form people I worked with at branches, remember I still work here, they are asking me "hey dude, hows the baby?" I get at least 1 per week, you think my manager would have sent out a message talking about my tragedy, and not to fukkin ask me how my baby is!!! Damnit!!


Lata

though, I still maintain employment with ERAC, I must agree with all the posts Ive read on this site, how true!!!

This is one of those moments when I will welcome some flamage. You sound like a puss to me. Where the heck can you work that your baby is stillborn and you take two months off, some of it unpaid, and still have a job?

I would have regretted the fact that your child perished, given you a reasonable amount of time to get your head straight (I am thinking 1 to 2 weeks here, tops) and expected you back at work.

I know I am a bastard, no need to tell me.

You're very brave, JeahHo. Expect some flamage.

Admin

Jeahho, are you fuc*kin' kidding me?? First off, I don't know what company you landed at when you left erac, but a company that cares about its people would give much more that the 1-2 week allocation that you feel is adequate. I'm sure car service and a lot of sales companies wouldn't give two months off, but there are companies out there that aren't as inhuman as you think they are. As for this gem:

"I would have regretted the fact that your child perished, given you a reasonable amount of time to get your head straight (I am thinking 1 to 2 weeks here, tops) and expected you back at work."
-Now, I've never lost a child, but I'm assuming that you have not either. So where the fuc*k do you get off giving such a retarded timeframe like 1-2 weeks. I'm sure it's not quite the same as losing your pet goldfish, you callous dic*khead.

I don't care if it's erac or any other company, writing him up and showing no concern whatsoever, is bullshit any way you slice it.

Jeahho, you need to shake off that ERAC-like hardass attitude you have. There is something called the human race. You should research it, bud!!!

Its obvious there are some people here in need of education. The following is the required time off for each situation.

general sickness: 1-4 days
emergency room visit: 1-4 days
hospital stay: 4 days to 2 weeks
death of relative: 1-3 days
death of parent: 2 days to 1 week
death of spouse: 2-3 weeks
death of child: 2-3 weeks

The author of this post is an obvious slacker. I guess he was expecting 6 months to a full year of no work and full benefits plus pay. What could you possibly do with 2 months off??? Grieve at the grave site everyday???? Drink yourself silly everyday????? Good job loser.
I lost my first wife 6 months after we married to a drunk driver and I took off two weeks to grieve and start over. It wasnt even paid leave either.
I my opinion you should have been tossed on your ass as soon as you stepped back in the door.

Hey realitycheck, since you are smarter than everyone else please list at least five large companies that you are aware of that give more that 1 month paid time off for the death of a loved one, specifically a child. I use to work for a Fortune 500 company that had very liberal paid leave and they refused more than 2 weeks paid leave. Put up or shut up.
I will verify any claim you make with human resources.